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本杰明·富兰克林《本杰明·富兰克林自传》· The Autobiography of Benjamin Franklin · 领导

Whether this was a real change of sentiment or only artifice, on a supposition of our being too far engaged in affection to retract, and therefore that we should steal a marriage, which would leave them at liberty to give or withhold what they pleas'd, I know not; but I suspected the latter, resented it, and went no more. Mrs. Godfrey brought me afterward some more favorable accounts of their disposition, and would have drawn me on again; but I declared absolutely my resolution to have nothing more to do with that family. This was resented by the Godfreys; we differ'd, and they removed, leaving me the whole house, and I resolved to take no more inmates.

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定位:Additional excerpt 81 · 核对日期:2026-10-19 · 核验:短摘录

白话

富兰克林与里德家因婚事产生矛盾。他怀疑对方态度转变只是策略:以为两人感情已深不会反悔,从而偷偷结婚,让女方家可随意决定给不给嫁妆。他识破后愤而不再登门。后来戈弗雷太太带来对方更有利的说法,想再拉拢他,但他明确表示与那家人不再来往。戈弗雷家对此不满,双方产生分歧,他们搬走,把整栋房子留给富兰克林,他决定不再招租客。核心是:在涉及婚姻和金钱的谈判中,要警惕对方利用感情设套;一旦看清,果断划清界限。可执行的做法是:识别对方是否在利用你的情感弱点,明确表达底线并坚持。

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富兰克林在自传中回忆与里德家因婚事和嫁妆问题产生矛盾,他怀疑对方设套,最终断绝来往。

今日一问

你是否在某个关系中感到被利用?今天能否明确表达你的底线?

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