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塞缪尔·斯迈尔斯《节俭》· Thrift · 投资

There is an old English proverb which says, "He that would thrive must first ask his wife;" but the wife must not only let her husband thrive, but help him, otherwise she is not the "help meet" which is as needful for the domestic comfort and satisfaction of the working man, as of every other man who undertakes the responsibility of a family. Women form the moral atmosphere in which we grow when children, and they have a great deal to do with the life we lead when we become men. It is true that the men may hold the reins; but it is generally the women who tell them which way to drive. What Rousseau said is very near the truth--"Men will always be what women make them."

出处: https://www.gutenberg.org/ebooks/14418
定位:Excerpt 304 · 核对日期:2026-10-19 · 核验:短摘录

白话

英国有句老话说:“想兴旺,先问妻。”但妻子不能只是不拦着丈夫兴旺,还得帮他,否则就算不上“合适的帮手”——对工人家庭来说,这份帮手和别的养家男人一样需要。孩子成长时所处的道德氛围是女人营造的,男人成年后的生活方式也跟她们有很大关系。没错,男人可能握着缰绳,但往哪个方向赶车,多半是女人说了算。卢梭说“男人总是女人造就的样子”,这话离真相很近。落到做法上:家庭重大开销和储蓄计划,夫妻要一起商量,别把理财当成一个人的事;谁更细心,就让谁管日常账目。

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斯迈尔斯《节俭》中论夫妻共同持家的一节,引用英国谚语和卢梭的话说明女性对家庭风气的影响。

今日一问

你家的钱和习惯,是两个人一起商量,还是一个人说了算?

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