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安德鲁·卡内基：安德鲁·卡内基自传·补录 464
安德鲁·卡内基《安德鲁·卡内基自传》· Autobiography of Andrew Carnegie · 领导
One year Gilder appeared early in the evening of the dinner as he wished to seat the guests. This had been done, but he came to me saying it was well he had looked them over. He had found John Burroughs and Ernest Thompson Seton were side by side, and as they were then engaged in a heated controversy upon the habits of beasts and birds, in which both had gone too far in their criticisms, they were at dagger's points. Gilder said it would never do to seat them together. He had separated them. I said nothing, but slipped into the dining-room unobserved and replaced the cards as before. Gilder's surprise was great when he saw the men next each other, but the result was just as I had expected. A reconciliation took place and they parted good friends. Moral: If you wish to play peace-maker, seat adversaries next each other where they must begin by being civil.
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定位：Additional excerpt 464 · 核对日期：2026-10-19 · 核验：短摘录
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有一年晚宴，吉尔德发现伯勒斯和塞顿正为动物习性激烈争吵，互不相让，就把两人座位分开。卡内基没吭声，偷偷把名牌换回原位，让他们挨着坐。结果两人不得不客气起来，最后和解，成了好朋友。卡内基的用意是：想当和事佬，就让对手坐在一起，逼他们先讲礼貌。因为面对面时，人很难继续恶言相向，反而容易缓和。做法是：遇到矛盾双方，别急着隔离，创造必须文明交流的场合，让他们自己破冰。
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卡内基自传里讲文学晚宴上的一个座位安排插曲。
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你身边有闹矛盾的人，能否创造一次必须礼貌相处的机会？
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