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P.T. 巴纳姆:奋斗与胜利·补录 176

P.T. 巴纳姆《奋斗与胜利》· Struggles and Triumphs · 领导

Before describing the process and incidents of “backing out,” I must acknowledge how sadly I broke through the counsel of the Lord in Waiting. While Prince Albert and others were engaged with the General, the Queen was gathering information from me in regard to his history, etc. Two or three questions were put and answered through the process indicated in my drill. It was a round-about way of doing business not at all to my liking, and I suppose the Lord in Waiting was seriously shocked, if not outraged, when I entered directly into conversation with Her Majesty. She, however, seemed not disposed to check my boldness, for she immediately spoke directly to me in obtaining the information which she sought. I felt entirely at ease in her presence, and could not avoid contrasting her sensible and amiable manners with the stiffness and formality of upstart gentility at home or abroad.

出处: https://www.gutenberg.org/ebooks/50115
定位:Additional excerpt 176 · 核对日期:2026-10-19 · 核验:短摘录

白话

巴纳姆承认自己严重违背了侍从勋爵的叮嘱。当阿尔伯特亲王等人围着将军时,女王向他询问将军的经历,他按规矩通过侍从转答了两三个问题,但觉得这种绕弯子的方式很不痛快,于是干脆直接和女王交谈。女王似乎并不介意,反而直接向他提问。巴纳姆在女王面前感到自在,并对比出女王通情达理的举止与国内外暴发户的僵硬做作。核心是:面对真正有教养的人,真诚直接往往比拘泥形式更受欣赏。

上下文

巴纳姆在觐见过程中打破宫廷礼仪,直接与女王对话,事后在自传中反思这一举动。

今日一问

在必须遵守规矩的场合,你如何判断何时可以真诚地打破形式?

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