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P.T. 巴纳姆：奋斗与胜利·补录 451
P.T. 巴纳姆《奋斗与胜利》· Struggles and Triumphs · 领导
Otto Goldschmidt, the husband of Jenny Lind, also called on me in London. He and his wife were then living in Dresden, and he said the first thing his wife desired him to ask me was, whether I was in want. I assured him that I was not, although I was managing to live in an economical way and my family would soon come over to reside in London. He then advised me to take them to Dresden, saying that living was very cheap there; and, he added, “my wife will gladly look up a proper house for you to live in.” I thankfully declined his proffered kindness, as Dresden was too far away from my business. A year subsequent to this, a letter was generally published in the American papers, purporting to have been written to me by Jenny Lind, and proffering me a large sum of money. I immediately pronounced the letter a forgery, and I soon afterwards received a communication from a young reporter in Philadelphia acknowledging himself as the author, and saying that he wrote it from a good motive, hoping it would benefit me. On the contrary it annoyed me exceedingly.
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定位：Additional excerpt 451 · 核对日期：2026-10-19 · 核验：短摘录
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珍妮·林德的丈夫戈尔德施密特在伦敦拜访巴纳姆，说妻子第一件事就是问他缺不缺钱。巴纳姆说自己虽然过得节省，但还不缺钱，家人也快搬来伦敦了。戈尔德施密特建议他把家搬到德累斯顿，那里生活便宜，珍妮可以帮忙找房子。巴纳姆婉拒了，因为德累斯顿离他的生意太远。一年后，美国报纸登出一封据说是珍妮·林德写给巴纳姆、要送他一大笔钱的信，巴纳姆立刻指出是伪造，后来一个费城年轻记者承认是自己写的，本意是想帮他，结果反而让他很恼火。这说明：好意也要尊重事实和当事人的意愿，否则帮忙可能变成添乱。
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巴纳姆曾成功经营珍妮·林德的美国巡演，两人交情深厚；此时巴纳姆在伦敦经营展览，经济并不宽裕。
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