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爱比克泰德：论说集与手册·摘录 86
爱比克泰德《论说集与手册》· Discourses and Enchiridion · 行动 · 健康 · 认知 · 财富
When you see a person weeping in sorrow either when a child goes abroad or when he is dead, or when the man has lost his property, take care that the appearance do not hurry you away with it, as if he were suffering in external things. But straightway make a distinction in your own mind, and be in readiness to say, it is not that which has happened that afflicts this man, for it does not afflict another, but it is the opinion about this thing which afflicts the man. So far as words then do not be unwilling to show him sympathy, and even if it happens so, to lament with him. But take care that you do not lament internally also.
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定位：Excerpt 86 · 核对日期：2026-10-19 · 核验：短摘录
白话
看到别人因孩子远行、亲人去世或财产损失而痛哭时，别让表象带着你走，以为他真被外在事物伤害了。要立刻在心里区分：不是发生的事折磨他，因为同样的事发生在别人身上并不折磨那人，而是他对这事的看法在折磨他。口头上不妨表示同情，甚至陪他叹息，但内心要警惕，别跟着一起悲伤。这样你既不失人情，又守住自己的判断。
上下文
爱比克泰德是罗马帝国时期的斯多葛派哲学家，这段话出自他的《语录》，教导人们区分外在事件与内在判断。
健康板块的原文与白话解读仅供阅读学习，不构成医疗建议。
今日一问
今天你遇到别人诉苦时，能否先在心里区分事实与看法，再决定如何回应？
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