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爱比克泰德：论说集与手册·摘录 94
爱比克泰德《论说集与手册》· Discourses and Enchiridion · 认知 · 健康 · 成长 · 行动
We may learn the wish (will) of nature from the things in which we do not differ from one another: for instance, when your neighbor’s slave has broken his cup, or anything else, we are ready to say forthwith, that it is one of the things which happen. You must know then that when your cup also is broken, you ought to think as you did when your neighbor’s cup was broken. Transfer this reflection to greater things also. Is another man’s child or wife dead? There is no one who would not say, This is an event incident to man. But when a man’s own child or wife is dead, forthwith he calls out, Woe to me, how wretched I am! But we ought to remember how we feel when we hear that it has happened to others.
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定位：Excerpt 94 · 核对日期：2026-10-19 · 核验：短摘录
白话
从我们对别人遭遇的反应里，能看出人共同的自然愿望。邻居的奴隶打碎杯子，你会说“这种事总会发生”；可你自己的杯子碎了，你往往就受不了。要把这个道理推到大事情上：别人死了孩子或妻子，谁都会说“这是人都会遇到的事”；轮到自己，却立刻喊“我好惨”。爱比克泰德不是让你冷漠，而是提醒：你早就知道坏事是人生的一部分，为什么只对别人宽容？练习方法就是——当不幸落到自己头上时，回想你听到别人遭遇时那种平静的判断，把它用在自己身上。
上下文
斯多亚派认为死亡、损失是自然且必然的事。爱比克泰德用日常例子训练学生：对他人遭遇的冷静判断，也应适用于自己。
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下次你遇到不顺时，能不能先问自己：如果这事发生在别人身上，我会怎么评价？
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