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马可·奥勒留:沉思录·摘录 163
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Another example may be given from a letter of Fronto's[7] Here is something else quarrelsome and querulous. I have sometimes found fault with you in your absence somewhat seriously in the company of a few of my most intimate friends: at times, for example, when you mixt in society with a more solemn look than was fitting, or would read books in the theatre or in a banquet; nor did I absent myself from theatre or banquet when you did.[8] Then I used to call you a hard man, no good company, even disagreeable, sometimes, when anger got the better of me. But did any one else in the same banquet speak against you, I could not endure to hear it with equanimity. Thus it was easier for me to say something to your disadvantage myself, than to hear others do it; just as I could more easily bear to chastise my daughter Gratia, than to see her chastised by another.'
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白话
弗龙托在信里对马可·奥勒留说:我有时在几个最亲近的朋友面前认真数落你,比如你参加聚会时表情太严肃,或者在剧场、宴席上看书;可我自己也没少去剧场和宴席。我气头上会说你死板、不合群、甚至讨人嫌。但要是别人在同一个宴席上说你的不是,我就听不下去。所以我自己说你坏话容易,听别人说就难;就像我宁可自己管教女儿格拉蒂娅,也不愿看别人管教她。这讲的是亲近的人之间一种矛盾心理:自己可以批评,别人一批评就护短。
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这是弗龙托写给马可·奥勒留的信,收在《沉思录》英译本的附录通信里,语气亲切而直率。
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你对自己在乎的人,是不是也容易自己批评可以、别人说一句就受不了?下次听到别人批评他时,先别急着护短,听听有没有道理。
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