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安德鲁·卡内基：安德鲁·卡内基自传·补录 466
安德鲁·卡内基《安德鲁·卡内基自传》· Autobiography of Andrew Carnegie · 领导
He is the happy man who feels there is not a human being to whom he does not wish happiness, long life, and deserved success, not one in whose path he would cast an obstacle nor to whom he would not do a service if in his power. All this he can feel without being called upon to retain as a friend one who has proved unworthy beyond question by dishonorable conduct. For such there should be nothing felt but pity, infinite pity. And pity for your own loss also, for true friendship can only feed and grow upon the virtues.
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定位：Additional excerpt 466 · 核对日期：2026-10-19 · 核验：短摘录
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卡内基认为，快乐的人是希望所有人都幸福、长寿、成功，不给人设障碍，能帮就帮。但这不是说你要把明显不诚实、不值得的人继续当朋友。对这种人，只该感到怜悯，无限的怜悯；也为自己失去朋友而怜悯，因为真正的友谊只能靠美德来滋养和成长。核心是：对所有人保持善意，但不必强留不值得的人做朋友。做法是：心里祝福每个人，行动上远离品行不端者，不纠缠、不怨恨。
上下文
卡内基自传中谈友谊与美德的关系，强调善意不等于滥交。
今日一问
你能否对不值得的人只存怜悯，而不浪费精力怨恨？
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